you don't need closure.
The biggest excuse made when not moving on from a situation is that you never recieved closure. Let me tell you something astonishing--you don't need it. Many times we wait for that explanation, that apology, and it may never arrive.
Closure doesn't come from the person, it comes from you. Really think about it. When someone gives you that "closure" you were expecting, you make the decision to let it go. Therefore, letting go is something you are completely capable of without that explanation. Learning to let go is a strong quality to have to live a more fulfilling life.
It's important to realize that you don't need someone else to let you know that you can move on--and in reality, waiting for that explanation just makes the process harder. Dwelling on something that isn't meant for you isn't good for your mental health. Sit in your feelings while they're valid, but once you've processed them, let them go. Don't try to open those closed doors with the same key, because the lock has changed.
You're worth so much more than someone else deciding what you do with you're feelings. Know your self worth, and instead of yearning for that person to come back, learn to accept that they may just not be what's best for you in your life right now. If they are, they will come back, but begging for that explanation won't let that happen organically.
Written by Josefina Heredia