Small Circle, Big Peace.
Friendships can change for many reasons. Perhaps you had different goals—different paths in life—different values, or even different maturity levels. In today's world, teenagers love to make everything about drama, but let's normalize change. Not everyone supports you when you evolve—and that's when you learn who your true friends are.
It's essential to acknowledge the peace and comfort that comes with a smaller, loyal circle of friends. It's also important to know what a true friendship looks like. True friendships aren't one-sided. If you're the only one initiating things and reaching out, but they don't reciprocate, take a step back. A true friendship is with people who listen to you. If someone only talks about their problems and minimizes yours, take a step back. A true friend is someone who supports and uplifts you in everything you do. A true friend is someone who makes you feel comfortable in being yourself. It's so important to keep boundaries and feel comfortable speaking up. It becomes exhausting keeping up appearances in friendships that no longer feel genuine.
Grieving over a lost friendship is completely normal and healthy, but don't sit in those feelings forever. Learn to move on and keep a growth mindset. Reflecting on what you've learned from losing someone helps you find yourself, set clearer boundaries, and appreciate the right people more. You shouldn't chase the friendships that are fading or force connections that no longer feel right. The people meant for you will grow with you, not away from you.
There’s something peaceful about realizing you don’t need a crowd to feel full. A few genuine souls who understand you are worth more than a hundred surface-level friendships. The right people don’t dim your light—they shine with you.
Written by: Josefina Heredia