Stop Proving, Start Improving.
It's human nature to compare things. Whether it is comparing other people together or comparing yourself to someone, we all do it. But in today's age of social media, it's especially easy to get caught up in comparison. Social media shines the spotlight on the highlights of people's lives; sometimes, maybe your own friends will post their achievements, and it can make you feel like you need to get ahead. Many are victims of this trap of "proof of worth", and you know what—I've been there. However, you could be focusing on personal growth instead.
Building your life around improving yourself is liberating. Simple things like thinking to yourself, "How can I get better?" rather than thinking things like "Will they like this?" are stepping stones towards growth. Everyone's path of life is different, so why focus on others' when you could be figuring out yours? Self-improvement is about self-awareness. It's about effort. It's about patience. So, I want you to be more self-aware of your actions and think about who you're really doing them for. Start investing in your own journey.
Now, you may be overwhelmed with information. But trust me, it won't just happen overnight. Like I said before, start small. Set goals that will benefit you, not what will impress others. If you read my blog last week, I talked about the power of privacy, and it comes hand in hand with self-improvement. Track your progress privately, don't wait for the acceptance of others. And whilst doing it, learn to enjoy this process. It doesn't have to be boring; you can make it fun. Celebrate the small wins and reward yourself! Over time, the changes you make for yourself will speak louder and last longer than any validation you've ever received.
I challenge you to make a small step towards change today—for YOU—and remind yourself to stop proving yourself, and start improving yourself.
Written by: Josefina Heredia